How to Make Sex Work With a Penis of Any Size - Olivia
One of the most challenging aspects in the bedroom, especially in a new relationship, is learning your partner's body and what makes it unique. Often, individual physical differences can require a slight adjustment in technique, especially if you are a very different size than your partner.
What if it's too big?
When it comes to penises, there are two kinds of "too big" one is length, the other is girth. Of course, you can have a combination of these challenges, depending on the person.
For both length and girth, make sure not to skimp on the foreplay. Foreplay is not only a great way to increase vaginal lubrication, which will help immensely with girth, but arousal actually lengthens the vagina and increases its maximum diameter, which will make you much more comfortable during lovemaking. I recommend at least 10 minutes of foreplay or masturbation prior to intercourse, but 20 minutes is optimal.
If a penis is too long, you'll want to avoid positions that provide deeper penetration. This means that positions during which your legs or knees are pulled back toward your shoulders are off the table, and you should be very careful about positions during which you are on all fours. If you decide you must be on all fours, you'll want to raise your back instead of lower it, as lowering provides deeper penetration for your partner and will likely be too intense.
The best position for length issues is the reverse cowgirl, as it gives you complete control over penetration depth and speed and provides shallower penetration than forward-facing cowgirl, and with more control.
There is a combination of toys and products available if your partner is too large. These vary from doughnuts that fit around the base of the penis to dildos of increasing size that you can use to prepare your body for a large partner just before an encounter.
Specifically for girth, make sure to use positions that keep your knees apart. Having your legs together reduces the maximum diameter of the vaginal canal and forces far more tissue movement to accommodate your partner.
What if it's too small?
This same principle of keeping knees together can be applied in reverse if your partner is smaller or is having trouble finishing. Using positions that keep your knees together increases friction and tightens the vaginal canal. For the same reason, getting on all fours and lowering your middle back will give your partner a greater sensation of deeper penetration and lets them manage any issues that arise from a shorter penis leaving the vagina unexpectedly during intercourse.
A great position for someone with a shorter penis, especially if the person has bad knees or a larger midsection, is for both of you to be on your sides. You draw your knees up closer to your chest and extend your legs; your partner curls up behind you. This position has all the deep penetration of being on all fours with none of the back or knee pressure and much more control. This will also prevent your body from rocking forward and backwards during intercourse, which for a lightly endowed person can create complications related to falling out.
There are also creams and lubes you can use that can temporarily tighten up the vagina. These can be a great long-term solution for heightening your and your partner's pleasure if there are size concerns. It can be worthwhile to invest in a sex sofa, as these ergonomic pieces of furniture are not only comfortable, functional and great for reading a book on a day off, they let you enjoy all kinds of great positions and angles that would be much harder to reach without it. Experimenting will give you the experience you need to have a quality encounter with your partner.